Kevin Jase6 months agoI’m 18 years old and right now, I feel overwhelmed. For more than ten years, I’ve had deep feelings for a girl at my school, and over time, those feelings have only grown stronger. After all these years, I finally told her how I felt, but unfortunately, she didn’t feel the same way. Despite that, I can’t stop thinking about her, and my feelings haven’t gone away. She now has a boyfriend, which makes it even harder. Recently, another girl, who I’m really close to and consider a good friend, has been showing clear signs that she’s interested in me. I like her too, and we’ve even shared some intimate moments. Lately, I’ve started to feel like I might be falling for her, but I’m scared to start a relationship with her. My biggest fear is that I won’t be able to move on from my first love, and that those lingering feelings for her might negatively affect any future relationship I have with the second girl. I’ve read a lot about the “First Love Theory” online, which suggests that some people never fully get over their first love, and that it can even affect them later in life, even in long-term marriages. I’m not sure what to do. Now, in response to your concerns: First, it’s completely normal to feel like you’ll never get over your first love, especially when the feelings have been so strong for such a long time. However, it’s important to recognize that time and personal growth can help you move forward. The fact that you’re developing feelings for someone else shows that you’re open to building new connections, which is a positive sign. It might be helpful to reflect on what you truly want in a relationship. The bond you share with your friend seems to be evolving, and that’s something to explore. If you’re genuinely interested in her and feel comfortable with her, it might be worth considering taking things further, but only if you’re ready. It’s okay to acknowledge that you still have feelings for your first love, but don’t let that hold you back from experiencing new connections. In time, you might find that your feelings for the first girl fade, and you’ll be able to fully invest in the relationship with the second girl. The First Love Theory can be true for some people, but not everyone is affected by it to the same extent. Your experiences will be unique to you, and it’s up to you to navigate your feelings in a way that feels right for you. Communication with the girl you're interested in and being honest with yourself about your feelings will be important steps in moving forward. It’s okay to take things slowly and give yourself time to heal. 1744
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