Shelia Winifred6 months agoI (27F) matched with a guy (28M) on Hinge in early summer 2024. We live about 20 minutes away from each other, and we started chatting on Snapchat. Despite talking daily, he never made plans to meet up. After about 1–2 months of this, I confronted him, and he explained that he was being cautious and wanted to feel “completely sure.” Shortly after, I noticed he blocked me on Instagram, which frustrated me. I ended up removing him from Snapchat, expressing that I couldn’t deal with someone who didn’t know what they wanted at that point. Two months later, in November, he added me back on Snapchat, apologized for his previous behavior, and we resumed talking. He hinted at meeting up, but another two months passed with no real action. At this point, it felt like it was going nowhere, and we were just talking daily like friends. So, this weekend, I redownloaded Tinder in hopes of finding someone serious. I matched with a guy, we hit it off, and we followed each other on Instagram. The guy I had been talking to noticed this and mentioned that the new guy was his friend. We didn’t even follow each other, so he was basically searching for my profile. He got upset, asking why I was adding other people while talking to him. I explained that after six months with no progress, I was open to meeting someone who actually wanted to date and meet in person. I ended things with the new guy once I learned about the connection. I told M28 that I would never knowingly talk to his friends, as that’s not how I roll. However, he was still upset and said he couldn’t pursue things anymore, claiming it was an “ick” and there was no going back. I understand his perspective, and at this point, we’ve removed each other. Now, I’m left wondering if I handled things poorly. Should I have ended things with him first before exploring other connections? Was there an expectation to be loyal during a prolonged talking stage with no plans to meet in person? We talked almost daily, but the conversations were pretty surface-level, and I just got tired of waiting for something to develop. 154
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