Merletta Jannah5 months agoI’m 17 (female) and I have a crush on a guy in our friend group, John, who is also 17 (male). He’s incredibly kind and mature, and I’ve liked him for a while now. We've been in this large group of about 20 people for a year, and we hang out every weekend. Although John doesn’t know I like him, some of the girls and a few guys in the group are aware. Recently, my best friend Kate managed to join a Dungeons & Dragons (D&D) game with John and a couple of other guys from our group, and she invited me to join too. Since I want to spend more time with John, I agreed, but I’m feeling nervous because neither Kate nor I know how to play D&D. I don’t want to look foolish or end up not enjoying it, which could ruin it for everyone. Does anyone have advice on learning the game or how to talk to John? Answer: It's completely understandable to feel a bit intimidated, especially when you're diving into something new like D&D, but it's great that you want to participate and spend time with John. Here are a few tips: Learn the Basics Quickly: D&D can seem complicated at first, but the basics are simple. You can start by reading a quick guide or watching a beginner’s video. Focus on understanding how the dice rolls work (such as the D20) and the basic concept of your character's actions—like attacking, defending, and interacting with others. Ask Questions: Everyone starts somewhere! The group will likely be understanding if you're new, and you can always ask John or the others for help with the rules. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes—that’s part of the fun. Talk to John Naturally: If you’re nervous about talking to him, try to engage in casual conversation about something you know he likes. You could even ask him about D&D and what he enjoys most about it, which could lead to a relaxed and friendly conversation. The goal is to connect over shared interests and enjoy each other’s company. Don’t Overthink It: Being yourself is the most important thing when talking to John. He’s already in your friend group, so he likely already sees you in a positive light. Focus on enjoying the game and spending time with your friends—this will naturally make things feel more comfortable. Have Fun: D&D is about creativity, teamwork, and having fun together, so try not to stress too much about being perfect. Everyone is there to enjoy themselves, and your enthusiasm for learning will likely be appreciated. Good luck, and have fun playing with John and the group!152