Irina Stela6 months agoI’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been reflecting on love and relationships. While I believe love is a beautiful thing and feel fortunate to have experienced it, I also find the emotional ups and downs exhausting. Recently, I’ve been considering the idea of entering into a lavender marriage with a close friend of mine. He’s a 30-year-old man from a culture where being openly homosexual is not accepted. Although he is sexually attracted to women, he also has a side of himself that he keeps hidden. He has established a solid career and is now looking for a wife to start a family, following in the footsteps of his father. He comes from a good family, is incredibly handsome, and is both intelligent and charming. His strong morals make me believe he would be a caring husband and a wonderful father. We share a deep bond and friendship, and while there is some attraction between us, we aren’t in love in a traditional sense. I envision a marriage where we support each other, respect one another, and work together as a team. I’m willing to accept him for who he truly is. I understand that this kind of arrangement isn’t conventional, but I believe many marriages are based on agreements rather than pure romance, even if it isn’t openly discussed. I’m aware of the risks involved, such as the possibility of him seeking true love elsewhere in the future, especially after his parents pass away. However, by that time, if things go well, we could have built a life and family together. I have a strong desire to have children, and I worry about the challenges of bringing them into this world. I feel that partnering with him could provide a stable environment for our future kids, especially considering the importance of choosing the right parents wisely. I’ve seen friends go through difficult custody battles and financial struggles after love marriages, which makes me view this arrangement as potentially less risky. I recognize that this is still a gamble, but I wonder if it might be a more secure option than a traditional love marriage. Am I being realistic, or am I setting myself up for failure? I would love to hear about others’ experiences or opinions on this unique situation.11.2K
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