Scarlett Beverley6 months agoI've never asked my husband to water the flowers or take care of them; I only asked him why he never buys them for me. His response was that he doesn't buy them because he has to take care of them afterward. Now, looking back, I realize that my feelings were hurt because I don't see what I do for my family as a burden, yet he views something as simple as buying me flowers as an inconvenience. My husband recently told me that, in nearly 20 years of being together, he has bought me flowers maybe four times, and each time it's because he had to help take care of them afterward. Is it unreasonable for me to feel that this is selfish? I know he's an amazing father, and I love him deeply, so I don't want to seem like I'm criticizing him too harshly. However, I do feel like there's room for improvement in the husband department. I am the primary breadwinner, the mother of his children, and still bear 90% of the domestic mental load. I cook, clean, and make sure our family is constantly taken care of—from stocking groceries to ensuring we always have essentials like toothpaste, toilet paper, and favorite snacks. Everything just magically appears for them, and motherhood often feels like a thankless job. Yet he’s going to complain about watering some flowers? I love my kids, but sometimes it feels like his response to simple requests is shortsighted. I wonder if I’m overreacting, though.1806
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