Owen Jillian6 months agoFor four years, I worked, went to school, took care of my kids, and managed to pay for a five-bedroom house without falling behind on bills, all with little to no help. Then I met my husband, and we fell in love. We each brought children into the relationship and went through two miscarriages and a stillbirth over our three years together. Our first year was difficult—financial struggles, family drama, and issues with his ex made life stressful. In 2023, I finished my degree, landed a great job, moved us into a new place, and paid all the bills while my husband tried to rebuild his career. In 2024, we lost our daughter, which was devastating, but I kept working and managing our household. Toward the end of 2024, my husband wanted to move closer to his biological kids because he was grieving and depressed. After months of his anger affecting my work and our family, I agreed to relocate, hoping it would help him refocus and contribute more. The move was challenging. I lost my car (hit by an uninsured driver), and my husband’s poor decisions led to my income-generating apps being shut down. Despite promises that things would improve, we ended up staying with his parents. I took on part-time gigs while managing our kids' schedules, but his family started calling me lazy and accusing me of bringing him down. This was despite me supporting him and his kids for an entire year without much help from him. Last week, his father yelled at me over how I handled a situation with my son. I stood up for myself, but things escalated, and I was kicked out with my kids. My husband did little to defend me and instead just got us out of the house. Later, I discovered texts between him and his mom, where she criticized me harshly, saying I bring nothing but struggle and shouldn’t be trusted with their grandchildren. My husband barely defended me, only stating I could be trusted with his children and ignoring the rest. This hurts deeply because I’ve gone above and beyond for his family—financially and emotionally. I even paid for his father’s emergency dental work and made sure his kids were always well taken care of. They seem to forget that I supported their son and grandkids during tough times. What’s even harder is my husband’s silence. He’s more concerned about maintaining peace than standing up for me. After losing our daughter, I worked through postpartum depression while he had months to grieve. I was expected to keep going without emotional support, and I feel like that’s still the expectation now. TL;DR: I’ve faced overwhelming challenges, including losing a child, supporting my family financially, and dealing with my husband’s family’s hostility. My husband’s lack of defense hurts the most, and I’m struggling to understand how to move forward. I’d appreciate unbiased opinions on this situation.170
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