Kristin Eckharta year agoI (20F) still can’t stop thinking about my ex (20M) after 3 years of no contact, and it’s been really hard to move on. To give you some context, I was in my first serious relationship when I was 14, and my boyfriend at the time was everything to me. But he broke up with me shortly after. A year later, he reached out, and out of a mix of unresolved feelings and a bit of resentment, I started talking to one of his friends, and we ended up dating. A year after that, my ex came back into the picture, and I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with him. Not long after, my ex cheated on me with my best friend. Looking back, I know this whole situation was a complete mess, and I’m not looking for anyone to judge me because I’ve already processed that part in my head. The real issue I’m struggling with is that, even though it’s been 3 years since we last spoke and we’re both in relationships now, I can’t seem to get him out of my mind. I think about him constantly, dream about him, and sometimes feel an overwhelming urge to reach out to him. I’ve done everything people say to move on: focused on myself, started exercising, went to therapy, and even moved to a different city. Yet, it still feels like he’s always there in my thoughts. How do you really get over something like this? Is there ever a point where everything fades away and I can forget about him, or will I just have to learn to live with these feelings? Would it be a terrible idea to try reaching out to him again, or should I just let it go?150
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