Florian Melantha6 months agoI’m a 20-year-old woman who recently fell in love with a 26-year-old man I met on Reddit. Our relationship has had its ups and downs, but I’ve never felt this deeply for anyone before. I’ve found myself lowering my standards for him. I consider myself a traditional woman, but since he dislikes driving, I’ve taken on that role. I usually prefer to go on dates and rarely invite someone over, but I made an exception for him when he wanted to stay in. He did surprise me by bringing flowers after I asked for them, and while they were beautiful, it felt a bit off because I had to prompt him. Just today, I suggested that we stay in, but he declined, saying he wanted to go out for food. I proposed a nice restaurant known for its great food, but he laughed and told me I didn’t deserve that level of niceness. Instead, he referred me to a less impressive restaurant, saying that was more my level. He has told me he loves me, but I can’t shake the feeling that his love is heavily conditional. I believe I deserve someone who sees my worth and is willing to give me their time, attention, and effort without hesitation. True love, in my eyes, is about accepting someone completely, flaws and all. Conditional love feels insincere to me, and I’m beginning to question if this is the kind of love I want in my life.54
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